Arkashean Q&A Session -- 077
TEAK: Harriet and I were talking about suddenly we do something and go, 'my God, I'm my mother.' I got that from my mother, exact copy, xerox it. These things when we catch ourselves action like one of our parents, (portion in here I don't understand-something like 'it's like a ? who calls up her mother's')-and it's usually in fact stuff that you hated that they did. Um, see-is the only thing you can do is just try and stop it?
THERRY: Remember the law. You become the things that you hate. You have to bear in mind that the? Law states that you walk towards the things that you fear and become the things that you hate. Well, it's not surprising that you catch yourself doing the very things that you hated from your folks.
TEAK: This seems to be a common story --
THERRY: With everybody.
TEAK: - with a lot of women that I know become their mothers and the men their fathers.
TEAK: The psychology is that we hate what our parents do?
THERRY: Well psychology is-it's not psychology who invented this phenomenon, they simply put a label on it. It's just a natural part of growing. The Laws of Creation are the one who invented the phenomena. Psychology simply recognized it and put a label on it.
TEAK: So what that you will resent-
THERRY: Well, see the law of Creation states that you walk towards the things that you fear and you become the things that you hate. That's the Affinity Factor at work to equalize your Karma. That's one of the reasons why battered children when they become parents, batter their children. Cause the phenomena keeps on going. You become the things that you hate.
TEAK: You said it balances the Karma?
THERRY: The Affinity Factor is at work.
TEAK: Well, how does it balance-
THERRY: Well, --
TEAK: Does it just restructure --
THERRY: The cycles, and you have to deal with the emotions and everything that goes involved in that, and that's the way you get to balance out Karma.
LEESA: That's the way-what do you mean, that's the way you'll get to stop feeling those things, and you'll stop hating those things when you become them, so that you face them?
THERRY: Right. It's a case of you having first-hand experience.
TEAK: Oh, yeah.
THERRY: But of course that also demands that you use the brain, not just use your head as a place to hang your hair.
LEESA: What were we just talking about a few minutes ago? I think you were asking --
TEAK: Oh, Michelle had said that she knows, she feels happy when her friends care about her because then she knows she's loved.
TEAK: So --
THERRY: Understand that here, it's not the presence or the absence, it's the coding. Because, obviously there are a lot of people in world who really loves her. But the presence of that love is useless if it's not coded in such a way that she will recognize it.
THERRY: Because if she herself, using her own language and the laws of her universe does not recognize the coding of love, then for all practical purposes it's just not there.
TEAK: Well, why would it take, does she even have a coding --
THERRY: Yeah, she got it. She has her own special ways that she accepts as the presence of love.
LEESA: But we were just saying that in some sense, when we were just talking about the big problem of accepting limitations, that I was saying, we were talking about why I like to keep coming back here then, because you're the first one to tell me 'no' and you're full of shit' that's there and she's the same way, she'll bluntly tell him --
THERRY: But see we don't put no limitations on you. Just because we tell you to stop raving truth, we are also very careful to leave you with the message that we don't judge you. What you do you continue to do based on you own Free Will. We do not have the audacity to tell you that you're wrong.
LEESA: You don't demand-
THERRY: I don't demand anything at all from you. Absolute not. As a matter of fact, I go out of my way, and I'm sure she does too, to have you left with the message, 'hey if you don't like it, don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.' Come back when you're human, but do come back. And, therefore, there is no limits placed upon you.
LEESA: I guess that's the same thing with you too. You just- give me advice or something --
THERRY: It's the feeling that whatever exists between us is unconditional.
THERRY: And that's coding it in the way that you can accept it. We don't play. We don't use love as a weapon. We don't withdraw it just because you may decide to do something that is different from what we would choose to do.
LEESA: Right. You're not saying if you don't live your life like this then we don't want you.
THERRY: Right. Exactly. Exactly. We say, 'hey, have fun, but come back anyway.' So, if nothing else we can talk about how stupid you were. (Laughter) We can have fun that way, but do come back.
LEESA: So, it's not really a limitation.
THERRY: It's not a limitation at all. It's an unconditional set of circumstances and therefore you have the inkling that love is there, hence you come back. And all this time I thought you was coming back to see me. (Laughter)
LEESA: No, I'm saying I come back just because it's logical. It's natural, it makes sense, it seems like a good philosophy of life. It's logical, it's like my intellect is telling me --
THERRY: And the emotions are walking towards it because it's saying, ooo, there's something that I want, and I don't have to steal it. I can take it at my leisure. It's not going to be withdrawn. I don't have to sit and take it all even though I'm not ready for it. Whereas, when you're dealing with other people, a lot of the times you feel that you have to steal the moment, otherwise you lose it. When you find yourself into a situation where you discover there is the coding of love, rather than laying back and enjoying it over time, you have thoughts of 'it ain't going to last-I'd better make the most of it, fast.' So you end up stealing the moment rather than leisurely enjoying it, walking away-it'll be there, it'll be there. See, at the moment you don't believe it'll be there. You believe that it's only temporary, it won't be too long, it won't be there. Cause nothing can be there.
LEESA: That's true.
THERRY: And that's why you need to work on the Continuum of Expectations.
LEESA: It's not so much that it's not going to be there, it's that it will change-the real truth will come out eventually. I --
THERRY: The implication that it's not there, that it won't be there.
THERRY: And that's only because you haven't accepted the Claim to Uniqueness. It is possible for somebody to not want to be with you for the moment, and still love you.
LEESA: When you say I haven't accepted the Claim, do you mean the Claim of other people, or the Claim to myself?
THERRY: Well, see the Claim to Uniqueness is not specific to any individual. It's a Universal Law and it applies to all the species, as well as --
LEESA: So when I accept it in myself I automatically accept it in other people.
TEAK: Is this her fears of confronting some of the innate knowledge of how we began, that we were not individuals?
TEAK: It has nothing to do with that?
TEAK: Why would someone not want to face-
THERRY: It's a part of excessive selfishness.
TEAK: The refusal to accept the uniqueness in yourself and not others?
THERRY: No, you can't separate the two.
TEAK: Oh, you mean-
THERRY: You can't separate the two. You can't accept Uniqueness within yourself and yet refuse Uniqueness unto somebody else.
THERRY: Because it's too blurred. When you are having problems with Uniqueness, then it's Uniqueness period. Consequently, when you're dealing with that aspect of Uniqueness that seems to be within yourself, you have feelings of 'but, you're supposed to' as though there's no difference, no border between you and me. 'Well, see, you're supposed to do this for me.' That's where the demands are coming from. Since there is no distinctive border of Uniqueness between you and the person that you are supposed to be autonomous from, then, if they don't abide by-if they don't satisfy your selfish wants then they've rejected you. In short, because there is no border between you there is no difference between a you or a me, I am you, you're supposed to do what I want because it's me, it's not you. The Claim to Uniqueness says 'no, there's a border there, it is you and it is me, and we're both valid.' It's a trade-off. We don't have to do anything. When you don't accept that, then the coding of love gets mixed.
LEESA: What did you ask? I forgot what the question was. (Laughter)
THERRY: That the-
TEAK: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because I know that you had said once that the second we claimed this individuality, that's when the pain and the aloneness came.
TEAK: So I thought that maybe it was connected with that.
THERRY: No, because you also have to remember that since that time, or since that experience many, many veils of forgetfulness have been created.
TEAK: Too many to make it subliminal in any kind of way?
THERRY: Well, it would have to be so subliminal it would have to be beyond reach of this level.
TEAK: Oh. Gee, well, I thought that's what underlined-was underlying in a lot of people.
THERRY: Well, what is underlying is the awareness of what they have is not really working well for them, so there has to be another way.
TEAK: So, you mean what's underlying is not the feeling of --
THERRY: Not from this level.
THERRY: Not from this level.
TEAK: Oh, gee, I didn't know that.
THERRY: What's underlying in this level is the awareness is that what it is that they have is not working properly. There has to be something more.
TEAK: So, the feeling you could come here with what we call the B... Was this a memory from when you were.