Arkashean Q&A Session -- 121
TERESA: So am I walking away from the relationships I've had it's incorrect?
THERRY: No, nobody can say that but you. It's not the case of the presence or the absence of you walking away. In many instances, the only wise thing to do is walk away, depending on the relationship. It's a case of, are you walking away needlessly just because of excessive ego.
TERESA: No.
THERRY: And only you can judge that. You and Karma. If you're walking away because the situation is not having, then that's a totally different thing. I mean hell, if a woman is stuck with a wife beater she's ducking crazy if she doesn't walk away. But that still doesn't mean she should walk away under the power of hate 'cause she'll only find herself right back again. So only you can determine if you were justified in walking away. But if you walked away because the sucker couldn't keep a promise, hey, you're going to be right back. It's just like being stuck to a rubber band. It'll stretch just so far and boing! You're right back again. And you're going to keep getting back until you do what is right for you without malice. It is not the walking away that's matters.
TERESA: It's the intent.
THERRY: It's the malice, the hatred.
TERESA: It's without the malice and hatred. It's a sense of that there will be no change and that's it's not suitable, it's not acceptable.
THERRY: See, only you can determine the validity of those. I refuse to go deep enough to pick up all of the specifics. I don't want to be a crystal ball for people. I simply read a pattern. And if you judge truly that there is no malice, it's simply the best thing for you, then you don't have to worry about it. But that's got nothing to do with you turning away from life and it's got nothing to do with you turning away from the beauty of life. Just because this planet is populated by walking assholes, doesn't mean that you've got to become one too. I mean if they want to be held stinko and ruin their lives, why follow the crowd? Why don't you just let them run away and you do what you have to but recognize the beauty of life anyway? Why resent because somebody else is too stupid to know beauty when they see it?
TERESA: I'm afraid of being contaminated.
THERRY: So in the process you end up contaminating yourself.
TERESA: Uh-hmmm.
THERRY: Oh okay. Remember there is a law that states, "You become the things that you hate and you walk towards the things that you fear." The beauty about those areas is that you still have Free Will, it's not too late.
TERESA: It's a suggestion to walk towards the things that you fear?
THERRY: No!
TERESA: It's a law?
THERRY: It's a law.
TERESA: You walk towards the things you fear.
THERRY: You will not be able to stop it. It's Predestiny. You become the things that you hate and you walk towards the things that you fear. Now it doesn't say that you will become the things that you fear and it doesn't mean that you will experience the things that you fear. It simply says that you will walk towards the things that you fear. But you have Free Will to change.
TERESA: To do it or not, to conquer or not.
THERRY: Right. But you sure as hell ain't going to be able to conquer if you just stick your head in the sand and refuse to deal with life. I agree with that. [Laugh]
TERESA: Is he learning from you?
[Laughter]
THERRY: Yeah! That's how I almost...
TERESA: Everything you know!
[Laughter]
THERRY: No, no, no, no, no. I taught him everything he knows but not everything I know.
[Laughter]
THERRY: See he's still fine-tuning.
TERESA: Uh-hmmm.
THERRY: It was, close to an "A" would you say?
[Laughter]
TARA: Does that law go for phobias? If you have a phobia...
THERRY: No, a phobia is always a trickle-down, a crossover. Always, always, always. It's the residue of an experience that hasn't totally been closed. It's the first step of a second chance. I guess a good way of giving it a definition is, it's a recent memory of another time that crossed over from another life. Hence if someone committed suicide or if somebody murdered themselves by throwing themselves out of a window, well, it's not the falling that kills them, usually it's the sudden stop. That produces a very special type of fear. So in the next life they have a phobia of fear of heights. It's a memory.
TARA: Is there any way to overcome a phobia?
THERRY: Yeah.
TARA: Yeah?
THERRY: Yeah. With proper psychological counseling you can overcome that phobia. If the counselor is worth his salt he can emotionally regress you to the other life and you can recall the deeds that brought about the phobia.
TARA: Oh my goodness!
THERRY: ...and walk through it as a bystander and that will end the phobia.
TERESA: It's called systematic desensitization.
THERRY: Yeah.
JIMMY: Is that the only way you can do that?
THERRY: No, but that's the best way. It's the shortest way and the least painful way.
TERESA: So it's behavioral rather than emotional?
MARTHA: But a psychiatrist or psychologist very rarely walk you through lifetimes because they don't even believe in reincarnation so....
THERRY: Correct.
MARTHA: They would do it...
THERRY: Right, psychologists rarely walk you anywheres.
TYRONE: [Laugh]
THERRY: For one thing it's not expedient in the pocketbook.
TYRONE: They walk you around in circles.
TERESA: You'd be looking for somebody who is a behavioralist specifically to do that.
THERRY: Yeah.
TINA: If a person had a terrible fear of bugs, then they died from a bug in a previous life?
THERRY: It's quite possible, yes.
TINA: I know people who run from a room when they see a spider.
THERRY: Yeah.
[Laughter]
MARTHA: Anyone here?!!
[Laughter]
THERRY: Why do I get the impression that....
TYRONE: Now is it as specific as a particular kind of insect or is it just a generalization.
THERRY: No, it depends on how the deed was committed. Sometimes it's a very, very specific kind of bug. Sometimes it's so specific that they can actually stand there and play with other bugs but if that specific bug comes three feet near them, forget it, there's no such thing as sanity anymore.
TARA: Yeah.
THERRY: The fear becomes unreasonable.
TARA: Can we get over that or do I have to remember? Ewww!...[Chuckle]
THERRY: People are...That's the quickest way.
TARA: Hmmm?
THERRY: That's the quickest way, is to walk through it again.
TARA: Oh my God!
TYRONE: Is there ever a transference that it wasn't related to a particular bug or insect, but somehow it got transferred to insects? I mean is there ever a directed phobia, so to speak?
THERRY: Yeah, for instance, you love someone tremendously...
JIMMY: Outside?
THERRY: And let's say they died mysteriously or whatever and you had the thought that they were bitten by a black widow. Well that feeling could be so strong that in the next life, you would, at the mere sight of a black widow, you would lose all of your strength and almost faint.
TYRONE: Oh.
THERRY: So from that standpoint, yeah, that's transference. Or misplaced aggression as you put it.
TARA: Does it last more than one lifetime or are we stuck with this lifetime after lifetime until I walk through it? It doesn't get lesser with time?
THERRY: Karma forgives nothing.
TARA: That's Karma?
THERRY: Yeah.
TYRONE: Do you visit the reptile house when you go to the zoo?
[Laughter]
TARA: I don't remember reptiles.
THERRY: No, in her case it's not fear of reptiles, it's arachnoids.
TYRONE: Well usually they have those, you know, in the same pavilion.
TINA: You mean the spiders?
TARA: Well, somebody had told me I heard apparently that my fear stems from in some lifetime I was put to death in a room full of spiders and scorpions.
THERRY: Yeah.
TARA: I have to remember going through that?
THERRY: Actually what happens is that at that time, they ...it was their mode of uhm punishing infidelity.
TARA: Yeah, that's what they said.
THERRY: Yeah.
TARA: I was caught cheating on my husband and they threw me in a roomful of spiders.
THERRY: A pit not a room.
TARA: A pit?
THERRY: Yeah.
TARA: I'm going to have to be back in that pit again to get over this.
THERRY: Yeah but what happens is ...
TERESA: Feel better now?
THERRY: ...that you look at it as a spectator.
JIMMY: Oh, that's the pits!
TYRONE: He's not saying that you have to go through the experience itself, but as a bystander in order to deal with the emotions that resulted from it.
TINA: There's a wonderful Twilight Zone episode, the Pilgrim Soul.
THERRY: Yeah.
TINA: ...where he goes through his experience of loss with her when she comes back in the hologram?
THERRY: Yeah, but that's different.
TYRONE: Yeah, that's not the same thing.
TINA: Is it? Is he still dealing with a terrible emotional trap?
TYRONE: That's not a phobia.
TINA: It's fear though.
THERRY: Yeah, well obviously strong emotions are the curse of man so from that point it's always emotions.
TINA: But he lived through it again.
THERRY: But in this particular case here she's having reference to a phobia which is a trickle-down, a crossover.
TINA: Well that...remember that character had a terrible fear of having a child.
THERRY: No.
TINA:... Of his wife having a child because of a loss that happened...
THERRY: Yes.
TINA: ...with a wife who had a child who died in childbirth.
THERRY: Yes, correct.
TINA: And so that fear drove him to react in all sorts of ways that he didn't understand.
THERRY: What it is, is that it drove him to refuse to be loved. Because that way if you don't love, you don't lose and if you don't lose, you don't hurt.
TINA: So the character comes back to a hologram, his previous life's wife.
THERRY: Yeah in a computer.
TARA: Yeah, I saw that, it starts...
TINA: She goes through a whole life in a very short amount of time. And then they reach that point where she's supposed to die and he starts telling her, "Don't go, don't go!" and at that point, he realizes his relationship with her at that point.
TYRONE: I have a question that brings up a point. What is the difference between fear and a phobia? Or is it?
THERRY: Fear by definition has reference to the status point of chemicals within a cup. Phobia has reference with the emotional instability towards the interaction of certain behaviors within that cup.
JIMMY: So the root of all fear is a phobia?
THERRY: No, it's the other way around.
JIMMY: The root of all phobia is fear?
THERRY: Yeah, it's a one-way street.
JIMMY: If fear is chemically-based and if the phobia seems to reach beyond the biological aspects of man, it would seem that the phobia is...
THERRY: It's not the chemical that reaches beyond the chemical, it's the emotion. Remember reality is dual in its nature therefore it's not the presence or the absence that forms reality, it's the interaction and it is the interaction that creates the bonds which supercedes. That imbalance is felt as fear. But it is not the presence or the absence of that chemical, it is the interaction of That which is Real with That which is Illusion.
TYRONE: Uh-hmmm.
THERRY:...that's what creates the strong bondings.
TYRONE: Is the tape on?
TARA: Yeah, yeah.
MARTHA: Did you mark it down? Okay.
TARA: No, I just turned it over.
MARTHA: Okay, I'm sorry.
THERRY: Remember the laws of reality. When you asked the question, you were not thinking of the laws concerning reality.
TYRONE: What? That part that makes up Illusion?
THERRY: Uh-huh.
TYRONE: Well, it's interesting that it produces a particular kind of chemical that causes us to label it the kind of thing that we address fear.
THERRY: Well, the label is arbitrary.
TYRONE: Well, I mean the feeling that generates it.
THERRY: Well, the interaction is what creates the bonding and it is the bonding because of its related strong emotions which overrides the power of the death process and forces reincarnation. It is one of the very few areas where you can have the with bond, the against bond and the for bond all rolled up into one. That's why it's so strong.
TARA: Is it beneficial to try to overcome a phobia the same way it would be to overcome anger? Does that make some fears? Or would there be a block in growth somehow to have a phobia or is it...?
THERRY: Depends on the person and the phobia. Some phobias you can live a whole lifetime with and it doesn't become dysfunctional. Others they're so dysfunctional they're unreasonable.
TARA: I mean in terms of spiritual advancement, so to speak. I mean, is that a block that you can't solve?
THERRY: Yes.
TARA: You need to get rid of it at some point eventually or something?
THERRY: Yes.
MARTHA: Could you get rid of it from a projection or would it require...?
THERRY: Yes, in your laboratory.
MARTHA: So it wouldn't require a psycho-analytical kind of thing?
THERRY: Yes, that's just one of the ways.
MARTHA: But that...here on this level then?
THERRY: Yes.
MARTHA: But you can also do it in your laboratory?
THERRY: Yes, providing you were wise enough to be with a teacher. Remember, you can't teach yourself something you don't know. If you try, you have a fool for a teacher.
MARTHA: I always assumed, tell me if I'm wrong, that in the laboratory, certainly for those of us who are studying that we are there because we want to be taught, however much we may be stubborn. Is that incorrect?
THERRY: No.
MARTHA: So you would have a teacher because you asked for a teacher, right?
THERRY: That's not necessarily true. Just because that there's a resident teacher in your laboratory, does not automatically imply that you will use him. There are some instances where people gain the attitude of, "Hey, I think I should be able to handle this myself." In which case the teacher will stay away.
TARA: They have the attitude of what? "I think...?"
THERRY: "I can handle it myself. There's something wrong with people who can't solve their own problems."
MARTHA: Would this person, could this person be like this in the laboratory but not like this on the earth level? Or would they usually be like that on the Earth level too?
THERRY: Depends on what's written in the Alliance of the Rule.
MARTHA: Oh!
TARA: Would you remember working it out on another level?
THERRY: Oh yes! Oh yes!
TARA: You mean I would wake up one day and not be afraid anymore?
THERRY: Yeah, uh-huh.
TINA: Are you still working out fears on this level when you deal with an alter-reality, say that it is of unbelievable fear proportions that you don't make any connection with it down here?
THERRY: Yes, yes.
MARTHA: Could you have this, I guess, pomposity on that you know, "I can do it myself" on this level and not have it in your laboratory?
THERRY: No.
MARTHA: How about vice versa?
THERRY: Repeating patterns.
MARTHA: How about the other way?
THERRY: It's a one-way street.
MARTHA: Okay.