Use vs. Being Used
(A Gift To Each?)

When an individual chooses to descend into/onto the Earth experience, one of the conditions of this descent is that each must allow themselves to be drafted [by the laws that governs patterns] as a pawn in another's games of life. The process of being held captive in the illusions of other's games is a very important part of the Earth Experience. [We are reminded of the law that states: "If one is to learn how to type, one needs a type-writer to bang on."]

A great many of the games of earth depend upon this law. If one is seeking a type of interaction with one of his own kind, there can be no interaction unless one of his kind is willing to interact. Another example might be that"if one seeks a friend, someone must be willing to stop their own games long enough to become a friend. Usually, both individuals are willing to take part in the on-going interaction... but, when the games turn negative [fighting and war], not all who must take part are willing to do so.

Regardless of the nature of the interaction, one individual willingly usesanother to satisfy the needs of the moment... usually, in the case of a developing friendship, both interactors are a willing partner; in that, each agree to use the other to satisfy specific needs. There are many names that classify the bonds that are formed during the process: friends, compatible friends, business partners, night stops, and acquaints... and these are just the positive bonds.

There are many times during the games of life that an individual becomes aware of the moment's needs. The need in question might be physical in nature, emotional in nature, or psychological in nature. At the same time, the individual might not be aware that the true cause of that need of the moment might be physical drives [such as the bodily functions]; or, the true cause might be the moment's emotional instability [such as the need to be held, the need to experience security, the need to belong to a special someone, the need to experience a close bonding with a special someone,the need to experience something new,  the need to express the self via new achievements, and, the very special need to communicate to with what one conceives his/her God to be], still, the true cause might be purely psychologically oriented [such as the need to complete a work task for one'sjob, the need to spend time with another individual to increase the bond that is becoming between them].

In either case, to satisfy a need, one must agree to adjust their values such that they become willing to use another.There is often a fine line between using another and being used by another. When all parties are of the same mind... when all are willing partners, there are no negative bonds taking place. However, when one or more of the game's partners are not a willing participant, then, under normal circumstances, is when the individuals feel the unwillingness via the feeling of being used, it is not usually a good feeling. This is usually the beginning of negative bonding.

One of the major differences between the average individual of the Earth Experience and the Spiritual Warrior [Brothers of the Chain] is that the Magi of today does not necessarily get a negative experience when he is been used. The Magi of today has a better understanding of inter-personal relationships. He understands that using one another is just an accepted practice... especially during the mutual satisfaction of needs which occurs in the process of any level of friendship. While most individuals seldom think of it, if they were never used, they would never have meaningful relationships with others of their kind. Who can deny that a man uses a women to satisfy not only  his sexual needs but many other needs as well; as does a women use a man for her many needs, sexual needs being just one of them. The fact that each seeks the other out for this satisfaction does not change the fact that each uses the other in the process.

As another example, who can deny that a husband uses his wife to care for his non-sexual personal needs, as does a wife use her husband to care forher non-sexual personal needs; if they didn't use one another, who would take care of the needs which arise around the house, such as shopping, laundry, cleaning, paying the bills etc. Again, the fact that they married, and thus both agreed to get into such a situation does not change the fact that each uses the other. Perhaps, then, the offense which comes when we use the words, "I've been used!" does not come because they have, indeed, been used. Perhaps it comes because they had not agreed to be used at that time, or in that particular way.

The Magi of today understands that any time any two or more individuals meet, for any reason, they automatically, regardless if they say so or not, place themselves in a situation whereby they agree to use others as they might be used themselves. The specific law in question is the First-Law-of-Interaction. It states:

First Law Of Interaction

Every individual, regardless of who they are, will have the tendency to lie, to cheat, to steal. If they give into this tendency, they will sell a part of themselves and/or a part of their ideals in order to get what they think they need from every given situation.

If an individual has taken offense because another has succeeded in taking an unfair advantage, perhaps the individual who was taken advantage of was not being totally honest with himself, or with the affairs of the relationship. Has the reader heard the phrase,"I trust you, but cut the cards?"  This old saying holds true not only in card-games, it also hold true in seemingly inter-personal friendships. The Magi realizes that as there is a level of truth,so, too, there is a level of trust which must always be attached to one's Maat. (See Friendships)